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1ST & UNFORGETTABLE! 5 GREAT TIPS TO A GREAT 1ST DATE!

1ST & UNFORGETTABLE! 5 GREAT TIPS TO A GREAT 1ST DATE!
1st & Unforgettable! 5 Great Tips to a Great 1st Date! By: Comedian Tyson Paul So you’ve been checking her out in an almost creepy manner ever since she started working with you. You’ve told your friends about how great she is from distance for almost two months and after three happy hour shots courtesy of Applebee’s; you’ve finally worked up the courage to ask her out on a date. Now your approach may have been a little awkward and your execution may have been as bad as a Dwight Howard free throw, but good god almighty she actually said yes. Congratulations on your minor conquest, but all you have done is won a very small battle in a very huge war. Failure to plan is a plan to fail; If you want your 1st date with her to not be your only date with her, you must have a great game plan. To be the Sean Payton to your Drew Brees-love life, Kaboom! Magazine.com would like to assist you with a few “Can’t-Miss” dating tips that will have you in her Hall of Fame of love. Kaboom! Magazine.com presents “5 Great Tips to a Great 1st Date!” He's Just Not That Into You 1. Be original and take her to lunch or brunch! Here is something that you may not know about women! When you ask a woman on a date, you are secretly letting them know how you actually feel about them. I remember I was in college and I asked a nice co-ed if she would like to go to dinner with me sometime. After I asked her to dinner, she awkwardly replied “Awww that’s sweet and don’t get me wrong I’m flattered, but I’m not really looking to start dating anyone right now.” Ummm I’m confused? Didn’t I just ask you to dinner? Where did an entire relationship come from? When you ask a woman out to dinner, what she really thinks you’re saying is “Will you be my girlfriend?” Some women in this era are smitten by that nice gesture, but the other 99% of woman feel he’s trying to take this invisible relationship you two have to the next level….adding unnecessary pressure to the situation. Women take everything that involves love to the extreme, so in order for this situation to work in your favor…you gotta be different. Women love creativity, so instead of being like every other man she ever been with take her to a nice lunch or Sunday brunch. A nice sunny afternoon takes away all the unnecessary seriousness from your date. You can dress more comfortable, she doesn’t have to take a long time doing hair and make-up causing her to be more relaxed, you can eat outside, and if the lunch date turns out to go very well, you have the opportunity to turn these into regular afternoon outings that she will defiantly look forward to. All women know that this is indeed a date, but the more and more you don’t make it feel like a date, the better your chances romantically with her. Not to mention the best happy hours are from Noon-5pm and All Day Sunday. Crazy-Stupid-Love 2. Follow the Leader! The reason you probably go on a lot of dates that never lead to relationships is because you let women take the wheel. YOU’RE A MAN! SO ACT LIKE ONE! Now we’re not saying become a crave man and club women over the head; but get back in the driver seat and show her that you don’t need any help with directions because you already know where you’re going. Start by telling her that you will be picking her up for the evening, she may tell you that it’s okay she will drive herself, but you never take no for an answer. Eventually she will give you the okay or compromise with you by meeting somewhere and leaving her car for you to drop her off at later. Don’t have a car? Either borrow a friend’s car or take a taxi, show her that you can adapt to any situation and rise to the occasion. By being the leader, you’re gonna have to take some risks and one of those is by telling her what you guys will be doing this evening instead of asking what she would like to do. Remember you’re the one who asked her out and if you fail to plan….you plan to fail. If you’re smart, then you already know her likes and dislikes making it easier for you to arrange the evening. So even if she doesn’t get to make any decisions, she will be happy with your choices. Take the lead and establish dominance, she will fall madly in love with you for it later. small-gift-box-in-hand 3. Get her a SMALL GIFT! When I was younger, my mom went on a date with a guy that drove all the way from Sacramento, CA just to go on a date with her (Mom’s was a boss!). To show her appreciation and excitement for the evening, my mother purchased a bottle of cologne with a small card saying “Thank you for a great evening.” Shocked but appreciative of the gesture, the man gladly said “No one ever done this to before….Thank you so much!” and they went on to have one of they best evenings of their lives. Many women are probably reading this right now and saying to themselves “I wish someone would do that for me.” Men! No matter how big or how it is, women love gifts. Now if you look at the title for this tip, you will that it says SMALL GIFT. It’s a first date not an engagement party, so don’t ruin go over board with the gesture by purchasing something only a husband should buy. Small bottle of perfume, $25 gift cards, Chocolates, small stuffed animal, a sun flower (Not Flowers) or a Starbucks card…these are great “small gifts” ideas that you can use to kick start a great evening. Please be sure to get her a small card along with the gift, but do not over do the card. I know you got a lot you want to say, but you got to keep it short and sweet. Do not write anything that describes you’re excitement for the evening either, that only works for women. Women love a man that’s not available but can easily be available, so if you’re telling them how excited you are to be on the date…they start to wonder when the last time you been on one of these (Not a good look). Remember sometimes it the small things in life that get you along way. Save_the_Last_Dance-920584976-large 4. You can never go wrong with music! When I was in a relationship, my girlfriend and I would go to the movies a lot. After every movie we went to, we would always walk around the marketplace or promenade and talk while listening to Jazz music being played in the background. Whether you’re going to a concert, having coffee at Starbucks, or just joyriding around the city; always have music at some point on your date. Women love music and with this being a special occasion it’s okay to allow her to control the music. If she lets you control the music, do not play rap music. You can play country, rock, pop, electro, r&b, and everything else except rap. If you play rap music, basically you’re telling her that you think you can have sex with her on the 1st date. Ask yourself this, do you really think that she wants her 1st impression of you to resemble Lil Wayne greatest hits?….I think not! Think-Like-a-Man_14 5. Stay off your muthaf*ckin phone! Women find it very annoying when a man is on his phone for any reason during a date. Now it’s not that hard to just keep your phone in your pocket, but just leaving your phone on in your pocket just leaves too much unnecessary temptation. What I suggest, don’t just keep your phone in your pocket….TURN YOUR PHONE OFF! Women actually notice how many times a man is on his phone while on a date. One time you get a pass, two times she is irritated, three times or more she knows you’re a playa and you’re not getting a 2nd date. Now they will notice how many times you’re on your phone on the date, but if you turn your phone off and never even look at on the date, they will lose their mind in disbelief and that’s a good thing. Leave all the texting, picture taking, and social media to them on this date. They may be on their phone once or twice, but if they see that you’re not on your phone…they will respectfully stay off of theirs. If you had a great time on the date, do not ruin it by telling her via text how great it was hangout with her 15 mins after you get home. Its okay to tell her that you had a good time when you’re dropping her off or ask her to text you to let you know that she made it home safely. Other than that, call her the next day to thank her for a lovely evening and say theses exact words ” We defiantly need to do this again sometime.” That way you’re letting her know you would like a 2nd date, but allowing it to be on her terms. Knocked-Up-seth-rogen-3914872-1200-798 Most women can read a man’s intentions better than a “50 Shades of Grey” novel, so it’s very difficult to get anything pass them. As long as you follow these instructions and actually show that you’re making an effort to be the man of her dreams….this will not be the only date you two go on.