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WHAT DREAMS OF AN EX MAY COME

WHAT DREAMS OF AN EX MAY COME
What Dreams of an Ex May Come By: Tyson Paul Do dreams truly mean anything? Dreams can be very mysterious at times and trying to understanding them can lead to many sleepless nights. No dream leaves a person more restless than the constant dreams of a certain individual from the past. Dreaming of an ex every once in a great moon is usually not a big deal, but when one dream every other year becomes once every two days, your mind starts to wonder if life is trying to tell you something? Whether you’re just walking pass them on a cloud or trying to choke each other to death, having an ex pop up in your dreams may have a deeper meaning than you realize. Recently, I myself have fell victim to the “Ex Dreams” as for the past two weeks I have been having non-stop dreams about an ex-girlfriend from 6 years ago. Each time I have awaken from a dream about her, millions of questions start floating through my head varying from “Is she okay?” to “Am I happy with my life?”; all leading me to go back and analyzing the entire relationship. This led me to sit down and write each dream out and analyze them one by one hopefully finding a common answer to why I am having the dreams that I am having. Understanding dreams about exes may help you continue to develop as a person, re-discover important aspects of who you are, and move towards feeling complete and whole again…..or it may be trying to tell you that you need to reach out to someone from the past and give it one more try. My grandma always told me that every dream you have means something, well let’s just see what these dreams mean. Mr-And-Mrs-Smith-Screencaps-brangelina-4696591-996-662 Theory #1 Unfinished Business: Have you ever watched a TV show that left you with an epic cliffhanger episode; only to be cancelled leaving you always wondering what would of happened if the show would have ran for one more season?…..exes are the exact same way. The unsuspected break-up left you with a lot of unanswered questions and you are dying to have them answered. When dreaming about this particular ex, you’re usually in a calm setting like crossing each other on the street, at a park, or even in a romantic hotel room. The conversation is unexpectedly going great and you might even have sex in the dream. (Fellas! remember it a dream and wet dreams stop when you’re 16.) Even though everything going great, when the dream gets to the best part…..you wake up. Many dreamers may jump to the conclusion that dreaming of a sexual encounter of an ex or a promise to not behave in a manner that led to the break up reflects the ex’s true feelings. In reality, the feelings expressed by the ex in the dream most likely reflect the feelings of the dreamer. Having a strong reaction to this statement and not being able to entertain the idea that your dream about your ex is telling you anything else besides that this person still loves you and you are destined to be together should show you how strong your hopes and wishes are. Your dreams have led to a lot of feelings and questions, but you have to ask yourself what do you want more the person or the answers? Most of the time, people want their questions answered more than a return to the relationship. Answers only led to more questions and once you start that cycle, you’re going to wish you never got started and your ex gonna look like the smartest person in the world for ending the relationship. Have you ever heard the story how curiosity killed the cat? 20140430-032001.jpg Theory #2 You realize you did the right thing: What doesn’t kill you always make you stronger. Intimate relationships often bring up past pains and heartache. It is important to repair the damage before we attempt to move onto a new relationship. Truly processing our thoughts and feelings about the break up allow us to acknowledge our pain, become more self-aware, and leave the past in the past as we repair ourselves in grow into a more positive and fulfilling future. Relationships, especially unhealthy ones, may leave us feeling as though we cannot stand on our own, that we need someone else to make us happy, that we are unable to resolve feelings of sadness, loneliness, or boredom without entering into another relationship. If this is the message of your dream, you may need to explore alternative ways to resolve these feelings and build up your own self-esteem and personal identity so that you are able to take on the world again- with or without anyone. 20140430-031645.jpg Theory #3 Days of Future Past: You never want to make the same mistake twice. Perhaps you have entered a relationship soon after ending one. Relationships enter our dreams when they relate to our current lives in some way. It is important to explore how this ex is relating to what is going on now for you. Fears of making the same mistakes from past relationships could ruin your current relationship before it even begins. It is important to compare or contrast people and relationships. Every relationship has risk with the potential of hurt. The reason why we enter into relationships is because we find the risk is worth it, we take a leap of faith, in hopes of finding a meaningful and fulfilling connection with another person. Some of these fears may be triggering you to realize your current relationship is following the same pattern as your past relationship. It is important to attempt to objectively review your current relationship. Perhaps you are more aware of some “red flags.” Yet, it is also possible you are finding your fears within the current relationship and are not looking at it clearly. You may be identifying these red flags now so that you are able to take a new approach in your current and future relationships in order to build a better relationship that better supports you. It is important to be honest with yourself, review the past relationship, review the current relationship, and determine what you believe is and is not best for your life right now. This will help you understand how past fears may be shading your perception. he_s_just_not_that_into_you1 Theory #4 Your ex is still running your life: Love is a battlefield and relationships can leave scars. Even after we end a relationship with someone, the relationship may still have a continuing impact on us. Everyone you encounter in life leaves some form of lasting impact on our lives. Perhaps your ex put you down, you may have adopted some put downs yourself and are putting yourself down within your automatic inner thoughts without realizing it. Perhaps you felt you were not good enough in the relationship. Perhaps your ex cheating on you and you are struggling with learning how to trust others again.Perhaps you are beginning to recognize you were almost addicted to your ex. All of these issues are important to deal with. They may not relate to the past relationship anymore as well as these issues are being represented for you within your dream by the relationship. Even when you are not directly in need of dealing with issues related to your relationship, you may be dealing with issues associated with the time in your life in which you had this relationship. Perhaps your ex is simply acting as a marker in time. You may want to ask yourself how your current life relates to that time in your life. What was going on for you during that time in your life? Who were your friends? What changed in your life since then? What traumas did you suffer? What mistakes did you make? What did you fail to achieve or what did you miss out on experiencing? Understanding that your ex may be representing more than the actual person or the nature of your relationship may help you understand what your dream is attempting to tell you. Dreaming of an ex in this particular may mean that you currently find yourself stuck in a complicated situation or that a significant part of your life’s foundation is in need of drastic changes. 20140430-032234.jpg Theory #5 YOU FINALLY DOIN YOU!: When we’re in a relationship, we often cut more ties than we actually need to. Perhaps you severed ties to friends, hobbies, activities, places, etc. Maybe severing all of these ties was not necessary and you have a need to bring some of these aspects back into your life again. When we lose a relationship, we often lose a part of ourselves along with it. Perhaps that part of us is too closely associated with the relationship at the time and it is too hard to hold onto. Perhaps as we experienced feelings of anger we disgarded many aspects of who we are simply because they were a reminder of the past relationship. When we find that we have moved on enough from a relationship, we may begin to acknowledge the void the relationship has left for us. It is at this time we realize we may need to fill this void ourselves by reclaiming what we mistakenly discarded. We have a tendency to throw the baby out with the bath water when it comes to relationships. Perhaps who we were, how we thought, the positive aspects of the relationship, the positive personality traits and ambitions of the ex are all something we can re-claim again. We realize all of these things are not something owned by our ex or something we need to leave in our past. We can begin to re-analyze and re-sort our lives and determine what is no longer helpful for us and what we need to continue to value and hold onto. Dreaming of relationships from when we were younger with, less responsibilities, may be telling us to bring back the joy, excitement, playfulness, and passion into our current relationship or life that we experienced when we were younger.