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THAT’S THE WAY LOVE GOES: MODEL REBECCA RUBER

THAT’S THE WAY LOVE GOES: MODEL REBECCA RUBER
Love can be very confusing at times! Kaboom! Magazine wants to help you with this crazy little thing called love in the form of our sex/relationship segment entitled “That’s The Way Love Goes.” #TTWLG is where Kaboom! Magazine allows fans and viewers of our exclusive website the chance to have their questions on sex, heartbreak, relationships, and love to be answered by their favorite celebrities/entertainment personalities. Today, Kaboom! fans get lovely advice from model/actress Rebecca Ruber. This New Jersey bombshell model has literally been around some of the hottest movies and clothing brands on the east coast. Let’s see how Rebecca handles issues such as sexual withdrawals, love and abuse, religious living, and many more. Rebecca Ruber Info: Age:  19 Zodiac Sign: Aries Hometown: Bergen County, NJ Occupation: Actress/Model/Full Time Student Instagram: @RebeccaRuber Twitter: @RebeccaRuber Facebook: Rebecca Ruber Snapchat: @rebecca_ruber If you could have the career of one person (past or present) who it would have to be…..: Honestly, I don’t want a career like anyone else. I want my career to be my own. Does True Love Exist: 100000% You know you’re in love when….: You put their interest before your own because their happiness is what brings you genuine happiness. Why should someone take your advice on love: I am very blunt, and I like to tell it like it is. I can read situations pretty well. Love is a big deal, and I want to help people. image47 Hey Rebecca, I’ve been with my BF for 1.5 years. He’s very non-expressive, he didn’t even tell me “I love you” for over a year, even though I said it first…. Rarely does anything sweet or thoughtful, is usually just absorbed in work. When I asked where he stood on issues like marriage & living together 1 year in, he said of course he wanted those things with me “eventually.” But he always got, like, combative & angry when I brought up the topics…. One night, after saying he would get married to me eventually but I shouldn’t be pushy, he asked another girl to meet up at a bar at midnight behind my back. Then proceeded to text-flirt with her all the next week, asked her for pics, etc. (He had said we were “broken up” for a few days at the time, which I guess was his defense.) I asked him to be a bit more specific about his timeframe… He ends up saying he doesn’t want to get engaged & married for another 5 years, but it’ll definitely happen for us then. We will be early 30s. I felt hurt, wondering why I wasn’t “good enough” for a ring and why he wanted to just string me along, living with me and having sex with me, for those 5 years. But it turns out… He really doesn’t want to be living with me at all. Originally, both of us thought living together was wrong because of our religion. My BF speaks highly of how his married friends did things the “right way” and refused to live together beforehand. so why did my BF end up asking me to move in with him? He said I felt I forced/pushed him into living together to prove his commitment to me. Which I will admit is probably true. (And before you think my BF is just stringing me along for 5 years for sex, he has gone months refusing to have sex with me because he says it will eventually strengthen our marriage due to our religion, etc… But the chemistry between us is so awesome that he always eventually caves.) He was all, blah blah, he’s moving out. So I said today, “Listen, I’ll move out. You’re right, living together isn’t a good idea, and I should respect that you want your space and time to focus on your work these next few years. We can keep dating, doing fun things together, going to church together, but I won’t just hang around your place all the time anymore. What do you think?” he replied “Sounds good.” Do you think this will strengthen the relationship? Sincerely, Proceeding with Caution Dear Proceeding with Caution, Wow….this is a lot to take in. Let’s dissect this piece by piece. You have to understand people express their emotions differently. While you seem to be more vocal and affectionate, he seems to be more introverted and to himself about his emotions. While it’s not bad to be that way, you have to think if that’s something you are willing to deal with. It seems like you are running the relationship more than him, and I personally believe a healthy relationship should be run 50% 50%. Both partners should be equally passionate about one another. If anything, the guy should show his emotions a little more because guys tend to not care as much as females. At the same time, I feel like maybe you are pressing the issue of moving in together and getting married very very early into the relationship. Which, is not a bad thing, but clearly his mindset is not the same as you. As I continue to read your dilemma, I am not too sure how I feel about your man. He seems very wishy washy about he wants, and he seems very controlling. He seems to want things to go his way when he wants it to happen, and isn’t willing to compromise. You deserve better than that, especially being the loving and affectionate person you seem to be. I think it’s disgusting how he was flirt texting with that girl after that short period of time being on your break, but I bet if you did that, he would flip out. In conclusion, it seems like you know what you want and he doesn’t. If you want, you could either move out and continue the relationship and HOPE the relationship will get stronger, or you can move on past this relationship and find someone that is willing to compromise and communicate with you better about your future with them. I hope this helps!  XO, Rebecca image39 Hello Rebecca, First, I would like to say that I’ve been a very good guy all my life and my moral standpoint is that I am doing nothing wrong in this situation. I’ve been flirting back and forth with a girl who I have been mutual friends with for years, but she does have a boyfriend. I know you’re thinking right now that I am a hot mess, but I only take things as far as she allows me to take them. If this girl didn’t treat me the same and said stop and I would back off her. I had friends over for Halloween party, and since we were the only ones there not really with anyone, she volunteered to help me with the party. At the end of the night, she ended up staying and helping me clean up alittle bit and we kept drinking. While we we’re at my house having drinks, she did talk about her BF and how he is shy and their relationship slowly growing. Anyway her BF stopped by to give her something and told her good night. While drinking we started watching Narcos on Netflix, which led to things getting a bit touchy feely. We both had our arms over each other, so she held my hand, while with my other hand, I had it on her waist area, and a bit on her bare stomach. If I let go of her hand, she would rest it and hold my lower rib area, stomach area. We never kissed, but basically had dry sex on my couch. So Narcos ends, and as soon it over she says “Well I’m gonna get out here, I had fun.” Now the way she said she was leaving was like nothing that just happened…happened. We have hung out a few times since that night, but it hasn’t come close to what happened that night.  Do you think she was being friendly to make sure I had a good night? Or she just playing hard to get? Did I just get friendzone? Sincerely, The Gentlemen Hook-Up Dear The Gentlemen Hook-Up, I feel like the alcohol definitely boosted her emotions towards you in that night. Plus, the relaxed setting could have caused her actions as well. If you have seen her since, and it hasn’t remotely been the same as that one experience, I would personally forget it ever happened. She has a boyfriend who she clearly doesn’t seem to want to leave, and even if she was interested in you to pursue more, she would have either kissed you that night, or at least definitely hit you up by now about that night and about you guys in general. My conclusion is that she is just a natural flirt, and the alcohol definitely boosted her emotions that night. If you are comfortable, you should still remain friends with her and not look too deep into it. XO, Rebecca image28 Hey Rebecca, I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now, and it’s safe to say this last year has not been a great year. A lot has happened in our relationship, I had an abortion and I wasn’t in a very good place and had depression, my mood swings we’re pretty bad, so I was someone you didn’t want to be around. My boyfriend is a DJ and its safe to say they get a lot of attention of beautiful girls, I found it very hard at the beginning because there were a couple of occasions where girls would try and talk to him, but I have just recently found out that he was talking and slept with this one girl while me and him were going through our problems, I asked him when I first heard about it if anything happened between him and this girl, but he said No and that she was just a groupie, he lied. I am very hurt and upset about it, but on the other hand I am thinking, that I may have drove him to doing that because it was in the early stages of the relationship. When I was going through my depression, I was very brutal with him. I said things, I physically did things to him, and even with all that he did stick with me. I never want to leave him and friends have told me that he slept with this girl for the past 6 months and not just once. I told him I needed time because he lied to me about it at the beginning, but all he says to me is I need to get over it or finish it because that’s the only way we’re moving forward and build a better relationship. I am so confused about what I should do? If I leave, why do I feel that everything we went through was for nothing? What if I stay?  should I forget about this girl because it was at the beginning? Sincerely, Ms. Cause & Effect Dear Ms. Cause & Effect, I am so sorry to hear about everything that has gone on this year. I just have to words to say about this situation: FORGET HIM! It seems like you are making up “justifiable” reasons as to why he did what he did, when in reality, nothing can justify why someone would cheat on their significant other. For him to have lied to you and to have cheated on you during that time in your life is a completely disgusting and selfish move on his part. If he really cared about you, he would be spending his time trying to make you feel better rather than get in another girl’s pants. Abortion is not an easy thing to go through as well, especially for the female. Clearly he is extremely immature and you deserve someone that will be by your side, LOYALLY, through the thick and thin. If you let him get away with the fact he cheated on you once, you can’t be surprised if you find out he is cheating on you AGAIN at some point. XO, Rebecca CL2hfomWcAArstN Hey Rebecca, I’m 28 and I’ve dated this girl on and off for 2 years who is the same age. Her family likes me very much, but don’t like that I’m separated from my ex-wife, but not divorced yet and they don’t understand it takes time. Because of morals, they think of our relationship as an insult on their family and even calling their daughter a “mistress.” I’ve even explained to them that I’m staying with my parents and not living with my ex-wife to be. I didn’t think when we first started dating that it was gonna be a big deal, but it has caused us to be on and off a lot. She would play games like the silent treatment or jealous games. The last straw was when her parents wanted to meet my parents and that day I wore the wrong shirt and my GF started to give me the silent treatment I asked her father to talk to her and because he was under influence of alcohol he turns around and says he got to explain to my father that his daughter can’t go out with a married man. So I turn around and explain to her what her father said and walked out. That was 3 months ago, but she refuses to pick up my calls, text, I sent flowers for bday nothing, but she still has on facebook “In A Relationship” with my name attached to it. I have met up with her and I tried to apologized, but all we did was fight. Not everyone in her family hated me, which is also a problem. All this time her nephews would call to say HI! and want me to coach their junior high basketball team. After talking to their mother and expressing that I still love her sister   and would like to talk to her I began practicing with their team. My GF was very upset with this as she felt that I’m using her family to stay in her life. I told her that this wasn’t the case at all and I also told her that my divorce is almost final. My divorce just became official, but the same day my divorce was final, she changed her photo on facebook showing a pic of her and another guy. I immediately text her and asked what the fuck is going on? And who is that guy? She text back with a long message talking about how I took too long and I need some time to myself.  I just don’t get it, I did everything she asked me to, I treated her family with the up most respect, and now when I get everything done she starts dating someone else?…..Have I been played for fool the entire time and now what do I do about coaching her nephews basketball team? Sincerely, Family Decisions Dear Family Decisions, WOW. My mind is completely blown. Honestly, I think this situation is a blessing in disguise because not only did you officially end things with someone you weren’t meant to spend the rest of your life with, but also, this situation showed this girls true colors. This girl and her family clearly have some issues, and you definitely should not have to deal with all of that, especially after being in an unhealthy marriage. You did nothing wrong. You did all you could to make this work, but clearly she wasn’t. That whole family situation as well as herself in general seems very sketchy, and at this point you should be happy you no longer have to deal with all that BS. I think you should continue coaching her nephews basketball team until the season’s over because the nephew and the team did nothing wrong to you, so you should be the better person and finish out the season with them. XO, Rebecca B1KJxZhIEAAGU6L Hey Rebecca, My boyfriend loves to make “jokes” at my expense. He says I’m special ed or ugly, and after seeing my reaction he will insist he is joking. Surely, I am not ugly and I am probably smarter than him, so I give him the benefit of the doubt. However he also calls me out of my name, casually, “jokingly” like “Go get daddy a beer Bitch!” or “You’re my one and only thot”. When I tell him that his words hurt my feelings, joking or not, he says I am overly sensitive and being dramatic. It doesn’t help that he doesn’t compliment me as often as I think a boyfriend should. I’m not looking for any validation from him as I am confident and sure of myself. However after talking to a few friends they’ve stated that I’m not over reacting and that it is a form of bullying and verbal abusive. My friends have never liked my boyfriend so they just might be saying these things just so I can break up with him. No one can judge a relationship from the outside looking in, but I might be fooling myself and just trying to keep my relationship intact. How would you handle this situation? Sincerely, Sarcasm or Bullying? Dear Sarcasm or Bullying?, YOU NEED TO DROP THIS FOOL. That is ABUSE, 10000%. You don’t deserve any of that BS. It is awesome that you recognize your self-worth on your own, but you don’t need someone who, whether it is intentional or unintentional, continues to put you down. You’ve told him your feelings on the matter before, and yet he continues to do it and says you’re being “over sensitive.” Oh no, honey. You need to get out of that relationship ASAP. XO, Rebecca 11008005_980601271958663_2068547210_n Hey Rebecca, I am with my girl for about 4 years now. We have a normal relationship and a normal sex life. Nothing spicy, nothing out of the ordinary. The problem is that I have to wait Vegas business trips in order to exploit my sexual desires. I am all into this kind of stuff . How can I approach my girlfriend into talking about this and most important, into doing this kind of things? Sincerely, New Tricks Dear New Tricks, You can’t force anyone into doing things like that. You have to both 100% be committed to do those type of things or it just leads to trouble down the road. I know that I would not want my boyfriend to be doing that stuff out in Vegas sooooo… Don’t be surprised if she is not 10000% happy with the conversation you plan on having with her. XO, Rebecca FOLLOW REBECCA RUBER ON THESE FOLLOWING SOCIAL MEDIA WEBSITES: Instagram: @RebeccaRuber Twitter: @RebeccaRuber Facebook: Rebecca Ruber Snapchat: @rebecca_ruber And that’s the way love goes! Do you have a situation in love that you need some advice with? Well allow some of our favorite celebrities or entertainment personalities to help you in the ways of love Please email us at kaboommarketing@yahoo.com or DM us on social media using the hastag #TTWLG