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THAT’S THE WAY LOVE GOES: LOVE EXPERT HAYLEY QUINN

THAT’S THE WAY LOVE GOES: LOVE EXPERT HAYLEY QUINN

Love can be very confusing at times! Kaboom! Magazine wants to help you with this crazy little thing called love in the form of our sex/relationship segment entitled “That’s The Way Love Goes.” #TTWLG is where Kaboom! Magazine allows fans and viewers of our exclusive website the chance to have their questions on sex, heartbreak, relationships, and love to be answered by their favorite celebrities/entertainment personalities. Today, Kaboom! fans get lovely advice from love expert Hayley Quinn. This Cronwall, UK native started out as a ghostwriter for male pick-up artists blogs, that grew into becoming a dating coaching for some of the world’s premier dating sites, which all led up to Hayley starting to teach her own philosophy on how we approach love now, holding us back from real happiness. Let’s see how Hayley tackles issues such as , punch drunk, a flirty player, and many more. Allow Hayley to tell you the way love goes….

Hayley Quinn Info:
Age: 28
Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius
Hometown: Cornwall, UK
Occupation: Love Expert
Instagram: @hayleyquinnx
Twitter: @hayleyquinn
Facebook: www.facebook.com/hayleyquinnpage
Youtube: www.youtube.com/HayleyQuinn< br /> Personal Website: www.hayleyquinn.com
If you could have the career of one person (past or present) who it would have to be…..: Queen Elizabeth the 1st

Does True Love exist: Definitely

You know you’re in love when….: You’re on such good terms with yourself that you choose a partner that adds to your life rather than that tries to fill a void.

Why should someone take your advice on love: I’ve worked in the pick-up industry, as a honey trap, coached thousands of men and women on their dating skills, written a book about love and done a TED talk on love. Now my goal in life is to debunk all the dating myths and pick up jargon that holds you back from finding real love.

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Hello Hayley,
I’m 22 years old and I’ve been in a forced long distance relationship due to her parents not approving because I spent some time in youth prison for battery, and it’s almost 2 years later. We usually see each other every weekend and everything was fine. We’ve had our misunderstandings, but I do trust her and love her with all my heart. Naturally her facebook is blocked to me because there’s a 4 year difference and her parents basically stalk her on every form of social media. About a month ago, the facebook picture was changed and in that picture she was with another guy. When I asked about it, she said she had no idea that happened and after I showed it to her she said it was her best guy friend who’s gay. She said he hacked her account and posted the picture as a joke, so I believed her and didn’t pay attention to it. About a week or so later I ran into a friend of hers and we just casually talked about my relationship. Her friend offered to show me my gf facebook and knowing generally what’s on it I didn’t mind. On the facebook there were several posts about her new bf that she is raving about, and also a few posts that said she was planning on moving in with him soon. I was completely caught off guard, her friend offered to call her and ask if she was talking about me? So I listened in and I swear I heard her voice saying that her and the guy she’s been seeing were planning to move in together. So when I confronted her about this a few days later, she denied it completely saying that she was talking about me and her, but she said her best friend to throw off her parents. She said that her plan was to move-in with her best friend for 6 months then he was gonna move out and I would move in. So for the past week she has been sending me pictures of her being at her parent’s house to try and convince me. So my problem is that I don’t know if I’m being lied to, like I know it all a part of her plan. But the biggest problem is even if she is lying to me, will my love for her cause me to be okay with the lie? I want to believe her so bad. I just can’t imagine her doing this to me. Please help me figure out this situation.

Sincerely,
My Believable Liar

Dear My Believable Liar,
The funny thing about love is that it can blind us. I really feel for you when you say you WANT to believe her, but I can see that reality is starting to collide with the pedestal she was once on to you. When we fall ‘in love’ we often skip getting to know who the ‘real’ person is and fall in love with who we think we are. You’ve also had some other circumstances here that have kept you at arms length. To me I think you know the truth here but are finding it hard to accept. I want you to work on that. And thinking about even without this new ‘boyfriend’ if the relationship is giving you the support and attention you want and deserve. Ending things can be hard but if you can let go of something that’s not right you do free up space to meet someone who can give you everything you need. They do exist. There are better people out there. So my honest advice is to let go of the rhinestones here to leave your palm free for diamonds. To find out more about this please head to www.hayleyquinn.com/hermind where I can help you to understand female psychology better.

Sincerely,
Hayley

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Hey Hayley,
I’m 32 and I dated my ex-boyfriend for 6 years (high school/college sweethearts), but we broke up because he joined the military and I was pursuing a nursing degree that turned into a doctor’s degree. We did stay in touch throughout the years and we were always the first to congratulate each other on our career accomplishments. I even attended his wedding two years ago when he returned home from Iraq. A few months ago, we met up for dinner when I was in town and he started telling me that he often thinks about what life would be like if we stayed together. I didn’t want to tell him this, but in my mind I was thinking “Is he reading my mind right now because I always think about the same thing.” It didn’t help that the waitress assumed that we were husband and wife which led him to start talking about how we were perfect together. After dinner, his wife called him and said she was working late, but that she wanted him to take me to this bar that they always go to when she gets off. I said okay, but I had to go back to my hotel room and change. We had about two hours to kill, so he walked me back to my hotel room. While waiting on me to change, he made a joke about what if his wife set it up where there was camera in the hotel room to see if we would have sex with each other? I knew he was joking so I sarcastically said “She did, but only that’s only because she wants to know what the best sex of your life looks like.” We kept joking about it, coming up with different scenarios, but really all it was doing was making us extremely horny. I could lie and say that nothing happened, but we just couldn’t control our curiousness and we ended up having very dirty hotel sex. I did feel very dirty, but a part of me felt very happy too, kinda like I was filling a void. That happiness ended when we met his wife at the bar because like a light switch he went from having sex with me to acting like the entire night didn’t happened. I felt very used because I thought he loved me and my friendship like it was one-of-a-kind; but at the bar, I realized that he has loved every woman he was ever emotionally with the same. Ever since that night, I’ve changed the way I think men love women. I just feel like men are just in love with women and not just a woman. I just look at men now and just feel that every woman I see them with is easily replaceable. Am right or am I wrong?

Sincerely,
The Moveable Object

Dear The Moveable Object
YIKES I feel for you. First of all you have to be careful that this is one guy’s actions and not ‘all men’. This is a painful experience but one that you have to learn from to make clearer decisions in the future (there will be men out there who will treasure you). Warning signs here are – GIRLLL! He’s married. If he’s acting with that little respect towards his wife don’t think it’s just because he’s ‘unhappy’ or really in love with you. He’s an incomplete and confused man who isn’t good for a committed relationship with anyone right now. He helped to sell you on a different romantic fantasy, but I’m sure he may have believed it to an extent himself, and I think because you were filling a ‘void’ that you were more open to being mislead. This is a harsh reality check that I wish you didn’t have to experience but the right way to process it is to know you have to fill the void yourself. Work on being happy and content by yourself so that you don’t ‘need’ anyone else to help you lose your mind in fantasy. Please watch my TEDx talk- I think you’ll relate to it. And start a new journey today by yourself.

Sincerely,
Hayley

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What’s Up Hayley,
I often, wonder if it is just in a guy’s head about his preference of a small woman verses a larger woman? Unfortunately, I have not slept with varying sizes of women as to experience if there any difference. I know, a lot has to do with mental perception, but yet I have not been able to find much conclusive info about the subject on the internet. Yeah, I hear the classic complaints that guys have about their significant other putting on extra pounds. Probably superficial, none of the less. Though, it may reduce her self-esteem, but couldn’t it effect the sensations of the sex itself? Granted, it’s a known fact that a significant size of gut on a guy, could take away from the perception of the length of his penis. But if woman with significant gain in her belly pouch then mounts her significant other, would his perception be any different than when she was smaller? Kind of wondering if it adds to the sensation of a looser deeper vagina? Yeah, there are stats that average length is x of inches in depth while none sexually aroused. Yet, wonder if any truths to the myths about rather or not a petite woman is tighter than fuller size woman, though studies had shown there were direct correlation between body size and girly parts. To me, it depends on contrast in body mass. As a guy at 5’ 8 ½” at 185lbs, if she’s significant smaller than me, I find it sexier if she mounts on top of me, but the closer she’s to my stature, I feel better in control. So do women feel the same way that size matters or does it all just depend on age and looks?

Sincerely,
The Body Party

Hey Body Party,
I honestly have no idea (though I did spend a few minutes thinking about the physics of all this). My honest advice is to get off google, don’t worry about other people’s preferences, and go out into the real world and if you feel a genuine attraction act on that come to your own conclusions about your sexual preferences.

Sincerely,
Hayley

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Hello Hayley,
I’m 23, my BF and I have been together for 4 years. We had sex on my birthday last week and he came inside me. We always use condoms because I’m not on birth control. I was really drunk (It was my birthday, I’m not an alcoholic) and I didn’t notice that he didn’t have a condom on. Usually I can tell by the feeling and of course seeing him put it on. Usually if we’re fooling around and he doesn’t have condoms, he stops before everything goes too far, but this time he was drunk too and I guess was too horny to control himself. He told me after he finished that he came inside me. He didn’t even attempt to pull out. Now we have been dating for 4 years and we have talked about children and unexpected pregnancy before. We’re both still in school and I just don’t want the stress of trying to take care of a kid and finish school which is why I always think safety first. When you talk to him about it, he will tell that he not encouraging it, but if it happens, he loves me and will welcome the baby into his life. I think that was one of the reasons why he didn’t tell me that he didn’t pull out or wear a condom until afterwards. I can’t take the morning after pill because I’m highly allergic to one of the ingredients. I know getting pregnant is a possibility, not super likely as I was at the end of my period/spotting. But still totally possible and what’s not to stop him from not doing this every time he doesn’t want to wear a condom? I feel like I’m in a lose/lose situation. If I’m pregnant, he’ll be happy and wanna keep it, because a lot of our friends are having kids or have kids and I think he feels that he is missing out on something. I also feel that if I’m not pregnant, but I make a big deal out it that he’s gonna feel that I don’t love him or want to eventually have a family with him someday. I’m in a catch-22 and I don’t even know what to do about it. I would really appreciate your help.

Sincerely,
Fighting Temptation

Dear Fighting Temptation
Ok girl this is your body, your health and your decision. Do not make decisions based out of fear or guilt. First of all go to a women’s clinic and talk to them about your emergency contraception options. Secondly look into getting a coil or other long term contraception. You can change your mind on this in the future, but for now if you’ve identified that you’re not ready for children (and yes go finish school!) then it’s the safest, wisest decision to take control of this yourself. And any loving partner will respect your decisions and your body.

Sincerely,
Hayley

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Hello Hayley,
Last night I was at the bar for a friend’s birthday. At one point in the night, I walked to the bar to grab a beer. While I was waiting for the bartender to take my order I noticed this cute chick seating right next to me. I said hi and asked her how her night was going? She said “pretty good.” I told the bartender I just wanted a Cool’s Light, he told me how much it was, but I was gonna start a tab, so I was looking for my debit card in my wallet. While I was looking for my card, the chick sitting next me just told the bartender “Put it on my tab!” I couldn’t believe it because a girl never brought a drink for me. I told her thank you and offered to buy her a drink at some point in the evening. She told me that I didn’t have to and then proceeds to say that she was just putting it on her tab because she was just being nice. I was so confused because I’ve never seen a woman do anything in a bar just to be nice. I’m starting to think she did like me in the beginning, but somewhere in the conversation I ruined it and she was turned off. So I’m asking you if there’s a new trend going on where women are just being nice in bars and nightclubs or did I just blow my opportunity at some point and when did it happen?

Sincerely,
Bar Fails

Hey Bar Fails
It sounds to me like she was creating the opportunity for you guys to have a flirtation/ connection. Women are gradually becoming more open minded to approaching men as they often feel like the men they want don’t approach them enough. A woman’s attraction to you though is a process in reaction to your behavior towards her. So the opportunity was there but at some point in the conversation it fell flat. Try not to see this as ‘your fault’ no one is supposed to have super sexual chemistry with everyone. Just remember next time to take the initiative, get her a drink, and then say ‘I have to admit I wasn’t just being nice, I thought you were cute and wanted to get to know you.’ Everything becomes easier when you take action on your own terms. To find out more about this please head to www.hayleyquinn.com/hermind where I can help you to understand female psychology better.

Sincerely,
Hayley

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Hey Hayley,
I met a guy about 5 months ago and I was so into him. When he had a stressful time at work he shut down; so I asked him if he wanted me to leave him alone? he said he didn’t know what he wanted, that I was amazing, but he wasn’t happy at that time and didn’t want to bring me down with him. So I took that as he wasn’t into me and told him ok I wish him well, but was looking for something serious. This was two weeks in. He took a vacation. Texted me during the vacation and said he felt better. I said I was glad to hear it. Then he went a month of no contact. I just assumed it was over. Then I saw a commercial about an inside joke we had and texted him thinking it was no big deal. He said he was glad to hear from me and texted me the rest of the night. I was hungry so I ended the convo. He started texting me again a few days later. Then Sunday, he texted me, but I was getting ready to go on a date, so I answered but told him I was getting ready to go to lunch. He texted me while I was on the date (I didn’t answer) then again at 7 asking if I was home safe? (Laughs) he said he worried about me (maybe more like checking up?) Even when there’s nothing to talk about he keeps trying to keep the conversation going. My question is why do all of that but not ask to see me? I do like him. I thought we had so much in common!! But I don’t want to straight out ask him why he’s contacting me and kill the attraction. Have you been in this position? He’s super shy so I don’t know if there’s a way I can hint it’s ok to ask me out without seeming pathetic?

Sincerely,
Now Can You See Me?

Hello Now Can You See Me?
Interesting question. It sounds like he likes you, but doesn’t feel he can give you what you need, so is just trying to keep you in the loop with him ENOUGH that the possibility is open in the future. Be really careful about participating in a semi-relationship with him where you’re not getting all your needs met. I’d be direct with him and say ‘is this your way of saying you want to grab lunch with me instead?’ and hear him out. If he takes action to see you and is now in a place to have the relationship you want. Great! If not, if he’s confused, back off. Giving him space will allow him to come to his own conclusions fastest and for you to move on if he’s never going to come forwards. Head to www.hayleyquinn.com/reallove to discover how to love powerfully on your terms.

Sincerely,
Hayley

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