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THAT’S THE WAY LOVE GOES: LFL STAR AMANDA RULLER

THAT’S THE WAY LOVE GOES: LFL STAR AMANDA RULLER

Love can be very confusing at times! Kaboom! Magazine wants to help you with this crazy little thing called love in the form of our sex/relationship segment entitled “That’s The Way Love Goes.” #TTWLG is where Kaboom! Magazine allows fans and viewers of our exclusive website the chance to have their questions on sex, heartbreak, relationships, and love to be answered by their favorite celebrities/entertainment personalities. Today, Kaboom! fans sees the return of LFL star Amanda Ruller. The Atlanta Steam running back has been running over competitors for the past couple of seasons and when she not scoring touchdowns, she’s one of the top fitness trainers in the dirty south. Let’s see how Amanda tackles a whole new set of issues such as crazy social media exes, changing for the worse, celebrity fantasies, and many more.

Amanda Ruller Info:
Age: 28
Zodiac Sign: Pisces
Hometown: Regina, Saskatchewan
Occupation: Legends Football Athlete (LFL)/Personal Trainer
*Check out my website www.AMANDAbolic.com where you can get your own custom training and nutrition programming just for you! I specialize in toning up and gaining muscle at the same time. I also do custom speed training with my ’Speed Builder’ programming. If you have just general health and fitness questions ask an expert! I offer one-on-one Skype sessions to pin point your health concerns and give you the tricks and tips to help become a better you. This is complimented with goal setting and life coach. Come check out AMANDAbolic!
Instagram: @amandaruller
Twitter: @AMANDAbolic
Facebook: www.facebook.com/amanadarullerLFL
Snapchat: @Ruller2a
Personal Website: www.AMANDAbolic.com
If you could have the career of one person (past or present) who it would have to be…..: JJ Watt
Does True Love exist: YES!
You know you’re in love when….: You fly across the country just to see someone.
Why should someone take your advice on love: I’m a very logical girl in this subject. Having a different opinion on a love issue is great to have. I’ll tell you the truth!
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Hello Amanda,
I’m 20 years old and been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6 months now. My boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend continuously posts old pictures of them online and is pretending they’re still together on all her social media accounts. They did date for 3 years and she has complete control over his Facebook because at one point she knew his email password and changed all his security questions and details, so there’s no way he can get back into his account. She constantly posts pictures of them pretending to be him on his FB, and has them still listed as a couple on there for the world to see. He claims it’s impossible for him to delete that account because it has to be inactive for two weeks in order for that to happen. She recently hacked his Instagram and posted herself as a WCW and he deleted it as soon as he got back on. This has been going on for months. At the beginning of our relationship, when I first saw the accounts, I thought he had a serious girlfriend so I blocked him and cut him off. I contacted her to tell her that her boyfriend was cheating, but she reacted really weirdly saying, “he probably is” (like she didn’t care). She couldn’t tell me when the last time they were together so I believed him when he continued to say she was “crazy” and couldn’t let go. She also always posts pictures from a Christmas shoot they did together over a year ago. He has denied being with her every time I have asked him for over 6 months. I want to believe him, but this situation is just too crazy and it’s hard to wrap my mind around how a female can continue to post pictures and pretend she’s still with her ex for months after they broke up. I cut him off for good at the beginning of January because I saw new Christmas pics of them from this year, but he called me 30 times from a private number (because I blocked him) and he denied the whole situation and said she was crazy and I believed him. I don’t know what to do because this situation is just really weird and stressful to be in because he always denies that he’s with her. But, my intuition tells me he is or their in an on again off again relationship. I need advice on whether I should just cut him off for good or stick it out, kick her muthafuckin ass, and hope she stops (which I don’t think she will)? Any advice would be great?

Sincerely,
B*tch don’t kill my guy

Dear Bitch Don’t Kill My Guy,
Girl run! This guy sounds like he is being super dishonest with you. His ex-girlfriend is still in the picture because she still is getting hope from him that the relationship is alive or will pick up again. If you have already spoken to the ex-girlfiend and she has not backed off after, then you need to forget the both of them. I feel like you do not need to deal with this situation. Life is way too damn short to waste on some guy that may or may not still be leading their ex-girlfriend on. YOU ARE AMAZING. You have a lot to offer and you need to set the standard that he cannot communicate with someone so crazy and delete his accounts or your gone. That’s it. You don’t need this BS. This is a strange situation and I’m sure there is things they are leaving out and you don’t want to be blind-sided when he tells you he is seeing her again. Hope this helps!

Sincerely,
Amanda R.

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Dear Amanda,
I’m 32 years old and currently single with no children. I come from a very small town were options are very limited when looking for someone my age with no serious baggage or children. I was recently at a surprise birthday party with friends when I was introduced to the birthday girl’s best friend. She’s 26 and we did hit it off instantly and ended talking and laughing with each other all night. She did inform me that she had a kid and that she still wasn’t over her baby daddy just let, but she was moving on. We did start texting each other throughout the week, but she couldn’t stop bringing up her baby daddy at some point during the conversation. The following weekend, we all ended up at another friend’s house for a fight party where she ended up bringing her cousin who is 19 years old and she’s freshmen in college. Not only did she manage to bring up baby daddy again at some point of the night (Which none of us can stand), but she also got very wasted and basically showed me that she had a very serious drinking problem. During the night I found that her cousin was going to school for economics which is what I got a degree in and I also found that one of her professors was my old boss. I left the fight party early because I had to work early the next morning, but before I left; I took a group picture with everyone for social media. The next morning I woke up and noticed that her cousin started following me on instagram and started liking quite a bit of my past photos and has liked every photo I’ve posted since. To make things even more interesting she sent me a DM saying that it was glad that we met and that she thought I was very cute. She also asked me that she would love to get lunch or coffee with me sometime. I didn’t reply back and I actually told one of my friends about it and he was like well it’s not like she underage she is over 18. Now I’ve already completely cut out the girl with the baby daddy because I can already tell that that she’s too much drama, but am I doing something wrong if I accept the 19 year-old offer of lunch and just take things as it comes? Am I just talking crazy? Am I too old for this?

Sincerely,
Am I Too Old 4 This?

Dear Am I Too Old 4 This,
I do not think that you are being crazy at all. I would take her up on that offer to get lunch and coffee sometime. I don’t think that it would harm the situation, it would only be a fun experience. I believe in taking chances on people and you should try to experience as much as you can in the dating world. That way you know exactly what you want and when you happen to meet the right person. I would play out the situation and see what comes from it. The only thing is if you don’t like drama, for example like with the 26 year old, it might be more with a younger girl. I’m only talking from experiance with dating younger people. They seem to not have kids but often act like children themselves. But this is for you to experience for yourself! Maybe she will have a fresh perspective on things. I would let the date happen and see where it goes from there. Have some fun 🙂

Sincerely,
Amanda R.

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Hey Amanda,
I’ve been with my fiancé for almost four years. We’ve been through our share of ups and downs. We started dating in college and we’ve been through hell and back. We tried to build a family, but I have miscarried twice. However, lately, I feel as if I’m outgrowing him. He’s trying his best to meet my demands from 2 years ago, like treating me more like his lady than his “FWB.” and he’s not smoking weed as much as Snoop Dogg anymore. But, now that he’s starting to get it, I want something different. I want a man that is more motivated, a man that the sky is the limit with us together as a couple. I want to start a family business. I want a more spiritual man, someone who is more connected to God. Someone that’s a real go-getter. I love him and don’t want him to feel like he wasted his life changing his life for me by settling down, getting rid of his many chicks, cutting off his dope boy associates, and now he’s still not good enough because that’s not the problem. We were friends for years before we decided to give us a shot and I saw so much more in him than he saw in himself. It was times he’d argue with me claiming I’m trying to turn him into something he’s not. But, now I just want someone that’s closer to God and have the same goals that I have. Should I just begin to nag him about what I want now even though he’s just getting comfortable with his new life? If so, then how will I do that without making him think I’m never satisfied? I just want him to know that as long as you are alive you must change. But, again, he swears the change was for me and it took him a while to adjust. Or, do you think he will hear me out easier now that he has made some changes? I don’t know. I’m so confused. Am I asking for too much?

Sincerely,
Change Gon Come

Dear Change Gon Come,
It is natural to want someone that is motivated and driven to achieve their goals. A relationship should be two people pushing each other and challenging each other to be better everyday! I can understand that you need someone on your level and you might not see that happening with this man. If this is a problem right now I can only imagine it getting worse down the line. You can only try to help encourage someone to change for so long and then they will start to push back and eventually resent you. You are not asking too much at all. You can’t help that you feel this way. You have to communicate that you want more with him. If he doesn’t want to even try or just does not make the change you want then its time to move on. You don’t want to feel like this for the rest of your life. And if that idea scares you then you know that you can learn to live with it as long as he is in your life. This is tough spot to be in right now, but you need to only push so far or move on. This is your life and you need to take control of it.

Sincerely,
Amanda R.

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Hello Amanda,
I’m 19 and I work at a restaurant. I do a lot of different jobs prep, cook, dish, etc. I work with a bunch of really cute waitresses who I’d like to flirt with. There’s one in particular that I have started conversing with through text message and occasional conversation at work and she is super cool, really cute, and I’d like to know her better. I’m not an ugly dude. I’ve had no problems getting chicks except the super-hot unattainable ones, I just freeze up and I can’t even talk to them because of how attractive they are I just lose my ability to think. I’m fairly skinny though which I’d say is my most unattractive feature because it can be a deal breaker for some women. However, I have a nice symmetrical face and my jawline is pretty cool. And I know looks aren’t much when it comes to attracting women but it’s really the only thing I have because my game is just trash. I have anxiety and depression and most of the time at work I’ve had 6 hours of sleep tops so I’m not even in a mood to talk. My buddy is a manager there who is on salary so he’s always there and he asked the girl I’m interested in what she thinks about me.(I didn’t ask him to do this for me because that is lame af) but the damage had been done and surprisingly she had really good things to say. So he told this information and I hit her up on social media and after some conversation she gave me her number without me asking for it. But yeah I have plenty opportunities at work to flirt with this girl but like I said my game is shit. I need tips on flirting.

Sincerely,
I Need Your Swagger

Dear I Need Your Swagger,
Flirting with girls is easy! And now that you know she is kind of into you that’s even better. When she first walks in to the restaurant let her come to you first or let her say hi first. If you wait a little she will be wondering why you didn’t approach her first and it will keep her guessing. After that make sure you give her a few good compliments during the day, not obvious ones like ‘you are beautiful’ but more like ‘I like your hustle today’ just to waterfall the conversation into something. Questions are always a go to. Ask her things throughout the day in order to get to know more about her. Girls love talking about themselves so ask her what her favourite food is or where she would like to travel next. Bring up recent movies playing in the theatre, this provoke conversation about going to a movie… maybe together. Invite her. Flirting is easy if you stand up tall, look her in the eyes, and exude confidence when talking to her. Girls respond the most to a confident man. If you are confident in yourself and what you are talking about, I promise you she will find that sexy. A man that is educated about a certain top is also a powerful tool you can use. Try to talk to her about something of topic in the media at the moment and express your opinion. Personally I cannot resist and educated man. Do a few of these tricks and tips and I promise she will be eating out of your hands.

Sincerely,
Amanda R.

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Hi Amanda,
I am a 35 year old lesbian. I have no sexual experience with either gender and really don’t even know how to kiss. This makes me ridiculously uncomfortable with dating. I do not really want to discuss it with someone I just met, because it is personal to me. I want to know someone well enough before telling them. However, if I don’t even know how to kiss it will probably be pretty obvious pretty quickly to someone I am dating. Therefore, I really need to be able to come across for a while as more experienced than I am. I can pretty much only do this if I do not perform like a beginner. I thought I’d start with old movies and books on kissing, but I really don’t think it’s going to make me good at it before practicing. What do you suggest I do?

Sincerely,
A Fish Out of Water

Dear A Fish Out of Water,
Kissing is easy! I wouldn’t worry about it that much. Being worried that you are bad at kissing is like a ticking time bomb. Do not let this stress you out. I would just dive right into getting to know someone and being super up front with the situation. I would think someone going into that situation would love to help you learn from then. To be honest you just have to practice on a person! Go out on that date and tell your date your situation if the vibe is right and you are about to kiss. To add some spice to it ask her to help you learn. No one will say no to that. Your situation is rare and exciting at the same time. No bad habit and if the vibe is right on a date and you go to kiss them just do what you feel. Kissing is a go with the flow kind of thing. I think we build it up so much in our head that the first time we cannot enjoy the moment. Just relax and remember if you get it wrong you can try again.

Sincerely,
Amanda R.

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What’s Up Amanda,
I am very frustrated with my girlfriend. I asked my partner about celebrity fantasying during sex several months ago to which she replied NO. Just a few days ago, I said I didn’t believe that she did not fantasize during sex to which she replied “Well yeah I have been lately.” The first time she said no was because I said it was not fair to the person you are sleeping with. I know if I told her that I think about J. Lo while I’m having sex with her, she would kill me. Now I am worried, if I’m satisfying my girlfriend during or is satisfying herself by thinking I’m Channing Tatum when we’re in the bedroom? Am I overacting or is this really a serious issue that I need to deal with right now?

Sincerely,
Baby what you thinking?

Dear Baby What You Think,
I would communicate to your girlfriend that you are having an issue with her saying she fantasizes during sex. This issue is about telling her that it hurts your feelings to hear that. You are not overrating, if it hurts your feeling in any way than it is a problem. Let her know that if she wants to spice things up then maybe you can role play or incorporate costumes in the mix. Just anything to make her not think of a celebrity. It is not a serious issue right now but if you do not deal with it then the situation could get worse. It is common for people to fantasize about celebrities because they are seen as such gods and goddesses on screen but they are just an image at the end of the day. Take control of this situation now and talk to your girlfriend

Sincerely,
Amanda R.

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FOLLOW AMANDA RULLER ON THESE FOLLOWING SOCIAL MEDIA WEBSITES:
Instagram: @amandaruller
Twitter: @AMANDAbolic
Facebook: www.facebook.com/amanadarullerLFL
Snapchat: @Ruller2a
Personal Website: www.AMANDAbolic.com