That’s The Way Love Goes: Comedian Andrea Carlisle

Love can be very confusing at times! Kaboom! Magazine wants to help you with this crazy little thing called love in the form of our sex/relationship segment entitled “That’s The Way Love Goes.” #TTWLG is where Kaboom! Magazine allows fans and viewers of our exclusive website the chance to have their questions on sex, heartbreak, relationships, and love to be answered by their favorite celebrities/entertainment personalities. Today, Kaboom! fans receive lovely advice from comedian/actress Andrea Carlisle. The Texas native is one of the sexiest and most requested comedians on the west coast, using all of her curves and sassy wit to pleasure every man’s funny bone. Let’s see how Andrea handles difficult situations such as fool’s love, trying connect with an ex, love & money, and many more.

Andrea Carlisle Info:
Age: 29 but I still feel like I’m 24. Don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing.
Zodiac Sign: Taurus but some people tell me I’m really an Aries so I am not sure anymore. Definitely not your typical Taurus though (Laughs)
Hometown: Sugar Land, TX
Occupation: Stand Up Comedian/Actress
Instagram: @AndreaCarlisle1
Twitter: @AndreaCarlisle1
Facebook: Andrea Carlisle Rodriguez
Snapchat: @OhFuckItsAndrea
Personal Website: Website is currently under construction but here is a link to my EPK: http://epresskitz.com/AndreaCarlisle
If you could have the career of one person (past or present) who it would have to be…..: Oh man that’s a tough one. Probably Lucille Ball and/or Amy Schumer

Does true love exist: I think so

You know you’re in love when….: I am 29 years old and have recently just experienced this feeling of “love” and it wasn’t even in a real relationship. When you’re in love, you just know and there’s no explanation of why really. You just know and it feels so different from any other attraction or feeling you felt for anyone else.

Why should someone take your advice on love: I am the type of person that doesn’t fall for people easily and I like to take things slowly. I am in no rush to be in a relationship because I don’t base things on age or time. In fact, I have spent years just dating and having the time of my life. BUT, when I do fall in love, I know and I fall hard. I think it’s because I’ve spent years observing other people and really paying attention to my feelings.

Hi Andrea,
I have being seeing this guy for awhile, and we are in a very serious relationship. We actually are in love with each other. I’m 27 years old with no children, and he has 1 child. The problem is not his child, however, the problem is his sick baby mother (breast cancer recovery). She can’t work and she can’t contribute at all financially to take care of her child. That leaves him to take care of her and his daughter. I mean he pays the rent, utilities, cable, furniture, everything. He told me that if we get married that it won’t hinder anything we are trying to do in our lives/marriage. My problem is simple: This man is taking care of another household. I told him that I have a problem with it now, then, I will have a problem with it later. He insists on me trusting him and that I shouldn’t walk away from love. And, if there were any other solutions he will do it because he doesn’t want to lose me. I know I sound like an evil bitch right now, but I’m really not. I just don’t want to start a new life with someone who still lives in the past. How do I handle this situation?

Sincerely,
A Brand New Past

Dear A Brand New Past.
Well since you guys are in a serious relationship, I am guessing you have known this about the guy for quite some time now? You were familiar with his baby mama, his children and his obligations since the beginning and have accepted all of it. This is his family and his responsibility as a man, father and as a good and loyal person which you should respect him for. If you love him enough to want to accept this in your life then be with him. If not for whatever reason (and that’s okay too), then better off to break it off. Things aren’t going to change once you guys get married so make your decision with that in your mind.

Sincerely,
Andrea

Hello Andrea,
I met my girl about a year ago when we both worked at the same place. We started off casually by texting and it eventually turned into a relationship. It was like a whirlwind. We couldn’t stay away from each other and everything was great. During our time we dated I was fired from my job that I had been at over ten years. I was fired partly due to my relationship with her. I never blamed her for the decisions I made to put myself in a position to be let go, but I needed her to understand that I had lost the only job I’ve ever worked. I went into kind of a funk because I have family that depended on me and I felt I let them down. Mind you I’m also in college as well. She’s also a student, but I always felt she wasn’t as serious as I was about my future. We always talked about getting married and having a family and living life happily. Eventually she got fired and she decided to move out of her apartment the day before I had two big exams. I offered to pay for a moving company and she declined. I offered to ask a couple of people I know to move all the heavy stuff for her, but she declined. So, she borrows a truck from a guy we both worked with and moved her stuff on her own. A couple days later she’s not answering the phone, so I go to her school and she blasts me for not helping her. Was I wrong for choosing my future over something that could’ve been done after my exams? So, she breaks it off and we stopped talking for a little over a month. During the time we weren’t talking she starts talking to the guy whose truck she borrowed and claimed it was innocent. My mind is like why would you start a text/talk relationship with someone that we both worked with? I felt it was messed up so I started texting my ex. I mean hell, if she can move on and text someone other than me I should be able to do the same thing. I’m not sure the capacity of their relationship. I love this woman with all my heart and she knows that. Should I continue to give her space and fight for the relationship or should I let it go all together? Help!

Sincerely,
Making Nothing or Making Something

Dear Making Nothing or Making Something,
Let it go all together. This woman sounds like a complete mess which is the exact opposite of you. You sound like you are a very motivated, hard working and generous person who likes helping others he cares about when he can. I think SHE is in the wrong for getting mad at you for not helping her move when she was moving. It’s a very selfish and immature move on her part to do to not even consider that you had exams you needed to focus on and the fact that you thought to find someone else to help her move. You seem like a very thoughtful, responsible and loving guy – find someone who is the same!

Sincerely,
Andrea

Hello Andrea,
I am wide awake and I am in tears, lying next to my boyfriend whom I’ve been seeing for almost 5 years. When I met him he was still living with his mom who raised him alone. When we started dating, he hid it from his family because I was a stripper when I was in college (a cousin of his noticed me and told his mom). When it had been about a year, I told him that it had become an issue for me. He then finally told his mom who right away told me she didn’t approve of our relationship. We had so many fights. We broke up about 20 times because of this issue. I finally got him to move out of his mom’s house in our 3rd year. About half a year after that, we moved in together. He never told his mom. When she visited his apartment unannounced she walked in on me and him having sex. There are so many ridiculous stories. Why am I hanging onto this man? I really don’t know why. When I’m with him I keep hoping he will marry me. I keep picturing myself being in a family again. But, he won’t. He keeps telling me he will need his family’s blessing. The two sisters also refuse to meet me and keep telling him to break up with me. I feel like I’m stuck in a nightmare. I feel so alone and helpless even when I’m with him. How can I break up? I can’t picture myself without him now that it’s been so long. And, I’m in my 30s. I know it’s so pathetic, but I really truly do not know how I can get away from this relationship?

Sincerely,
Strip Away Mommy

Dear Strip Away Mommy
Wow that whole paragraph stressed me out and I’m not even in the situation LOL. GIRL, life is too short to be dealing any of that. YOU are responsible for your own thoughts and feelings and I feel like you are a strong enough woman to break this off and find someone who is proud to be your man and that has a family that feels the same.You deserve a REAL man and a coward who is afraid of and dependent on his mother is not a man! DONT SETTLE FOR THIS SHIT

Sincerely,
Andrea

What’s Up Andrea,
So me and my gf have been dating for about 4 months and I love her so much. Whenever I am with her, I always tell her that I love her, but she never tells me that she loves me unless we are alone. When we talk on the phone, she never says it unless she is by herself. Just like tonight we were talking and she was tired and I told her “Goodnight I love you” and she just says “Goodnight.” Then after we hang up I then get a text from her saying that she loves me. And that happens every time when we get off the phone. When we are having sex, she says it every 5 seconds, she even tells me that she will never love anybody else and we’re gonna be in love forever. I actually want to have sex in public just to see if she will say the same thing while we’re getting down and dirty in private. I wanted to know what I should do about this. Should I just leave it alone or should I talk to her about it?

Sincerely,
Silent Love Life

Dear Silent Love Life,
Never be afraid to ask your significant other anything. Life is too short to be playing guessing games and it will drive you nuts thinking about it all the time. There is nothing wrong with talking to her about this. So do it.

Sincerely,
Andrea

Dear Andrea,
About a year ago, I found myself newly single and signed up to the dating app “Tinder.” I ended up seeing a guy on there that I graduated high school with (6 years ago) and had a crush on back then. He messaged me shortly afterward and we began hanging out. We both said in the beginning that we weren’t looking to force anything to be serious, but if it amounted to that we would be open to it. We started having regular sex, as well as, going out on dates. We would typically spend all of our free time together and basically acted as a couple without the title. We got along GREAT. It was always a good time. Fast forward a few months and I started catching some real feelings. Well, I decided to bring this up to him and he basically said that he liked the way things were with us and that he wasn’t looking to get into a relationship “anytime soon.” I was a little surprised because the things we were doing (meeting friends/family, him begging me to stay the night even when I was on my cycle and we couldn’t have sex, regular dates, being monogamous, etc.) had me thinking he was feeling the same way I did. But, whatever, I said fine, and we continued doing what we were doing. So, here’s where I f****d up. His friend, let’s call him “Davis,” I met him through my FWB while a group of us would all hang out together. I thought he was funny and had a dope personality, not to mention he was attractive, but we never flirted or anything. Davis and I would still chat on social media as friends. We even went a few places (the gym, dinner, the gun range) and it was amazing. One day, Davis said he was always interested in me and wanted to see where things could go. I felt I was “breaking the code,” but I honestly felt like given what FWB and I went through and the fact that I poured my heart out to him and he rejected me, I was free to do what I wanted. Maybe his friend wasn’t the best choice, but it was what it was. Me and FWB then went out on a few more little dates and we ended up sleeping together again. I know they’re both friends and I know that I’ve been going back and forth with both of them, but I do love both of them with all my heart. One trying really hard all while the other I feel is not trying hard enough. How do I play out this situation and come out on top with the right man?

Sincerely,
Three’s A Crowd

Dear Three’s A Crowd,
Oh man. That’s a tough one. I try to stay away from my man’s “homies” in terms of anything other than friendship unless it’s like a year later or something, and you two have completely moved on. I say follow your heart and do what you think is best for you BUT I would be completely honest with the both of them. You’re going to get yelled at regardless, but it’s better to get out of this situation sooner than later. Also, do yourself a favor and never get into a situation like this again (Laughs).

Sincerely,
Andrea

Hi Andrea,
I’m 23 years old, smart, athletically fit, and financially stable. My lady friends say I’m an attractive guy and I don’t have too much trouble when I go to bars or on tinder, facebook, etc talking to women. My issue is, that last 2-3 girls I’ve dated seriously over the last year did not work out, and all ended abruptly with really no warning signs. One day we are peachy, smiling, having a grand time, and then literally the next day I get a call with the girl ending it. Each girl and I have dating from around 1-4 months. They all cite the same story that it’s not me that they are going through things, or their ex stirs up old issues. I can see all of those issues legitimately happening. But when it starts being a trend, and I’m the common denominator, how do I know that I’m not the issue? Am I attracted to these the type of women? Do I just have bad luck? Is it something I’m doing which I don’t realize that pushes them away? My confidence has taken quite the hit. Yes, 2 of the three girls I’ve dated I met on tinder and one I casually met at a bar. So you could say that my scenery is not the best when meeting women that I’d like to date and hopefully establish a meaningful relationship. What could I be doing wrong? What could I do to possible remedy this issue?

Sincerely,
Mr. Can’t Do Right

Dear Mr. Can’t Do Right,
Well, you’re talking to someone who absolutely hates dating apps so I’d say Tinder could be a reason (Laughs). With Tinder, I feel like the people you meet on there are also talking to like 5 other people at the same time so they are constantly looking for the next best thing which sucks. I don’t know you personally so I couldn’t tell you if you were doing something wrong but I doubt the problem is you. Trying meeting women doing other things like maybe through friends or at the grocery store, or even at the museum. WHat are your favorite hobbies? Maybe you could meet more interesting women doing what you love? I personally don’t think Tinder or the bar scene are the best places to meet quality women. Quality women are usually doing more interesting things and that’s probably what you’re looking for. You’re young, healthy, smart and from what I read, attractive, so take your time meeting women and have fun! Enjoy the ride and don’t be so be in a relationship. When it’s the right girl, you’ll know!

Sincerely,
Andrea

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